Anal vibrators come in a variety of shapes and sizes. Choose a toy that fits your anatomy and provides the types of sensations you desire.
Start out small with a narrow butt plug and gradually work up to slightly larger sizes. Some people like to have their partners hold the toy, but be sure you’re both well lubricated!
1. Prepare
As anal play becomes less taboo, more people from all parts of the gender and sexuality spectrum are discovering the pleasures of stimulating their backdoors. It can be intimidating to use an anal vibrator for the first time, but a little bit of preparation and knowing what to expect can help to ease your worries.
First, it’s a good idea to practice alone before you try an anal sex toy with a partner. This can get you used to the sensations and make it easier when you add a partner later on. It can also help you get more comfortable with the toy and figure out how much pressure or vibration feels best for you.
Next, it’s important to have the right lube on hand. The anus is not as self-lubricating as the vagina, so a good amount of lube is essential for pleasurable anal play. There are lubes specifically designed for anal play, but any water-based lube will do the trick. Be sure to apply it liberally and reapply as needed.
Finally, it’s a good idea to get yourself into the right mindset for anal play by relaxing and focusing on your breathing before you insert your anal vibrator. You can also practice with your anal beads without a toy, which can help you feel more comfortable when you do bring a partner into the equation.
2. Insert
As you start to play with your anal vibrator, be sure to apply copious amounts of lube to both the toy and your anus. This step is non-negotiable for anal play, and it is essential to help prevent anal irritation. Water-based lube works best for this type of toy, but silicone-based lube is also an option. Be sure to use a lube that is labeled as body-safe and reapply as needed.
Most anal sex toys have tapered tips that allow for easy insertion. It’s a good idea to begin by inserting the tip and then slowly work your way up. When you reach a point of resistance, remove the toy and re-lubricate, then try again. If you are a beginner, it may be helpful to have your partner hold the toy and guide you.
Eventually you will be ready to add a bit of girth to your anal. This can be done with the toy or with a clitoral hood. It is important to remember that your anus is not self-lubricating, so it’s a good idea to massage the butt before anal penetration. This will stimulate the anus and help you to build up arousal before inserting your anal vibrator. For maximum pleasure, you can also pair your anal vibrator with a clitoral hood or another anal toy like a male masturbator.
3. Relax
As anal play becomes less taboo, people from all sexuality and gender spectrums are discovering the incredible pleasures of stimulating their backdoor. Whether for solo fun or during partner play, the best anal vibrators can send waves of intense pleasure that stimulate and excite the whole erogenous zone for powerful anal orgasms.
Start small by slipping a little anal toy inside your mouth to get used to the sensations before moving on to an anal plug or dildo. Choose a toy that has a flared base that widens at the bottom so it’s less likely to slip in too far or become stuck. Or, opt for a toy with handles or strings that can be pulled out for easier retrieval.
Before inserting the toy, saturate the end of the toy with plenty of anal lubricant. Then, push the tip inside your anus slowly and with a deep breath to allow the anus to unclench. Pushing a toy in with too much pressure can cause pain and discomfort, so don’t force it. If it hurts, take a break and add more lube to your anus before trying again.
Once you’re comfortable with inserting and removing the anal toy, try playing with it in different positions. It can feel especially pleasurable to pair anal play with stimulation of other erogenous zones like the nipples or genitals, and it can even be used for hands-free anal stimulation during masturbation.
4. Enjoy
Once you’re lubed up and aroused, it’s time to put your anal vibrator to work. Using it for the first time can be exciting, and it’s important to remember that your body may react differently from one day to the next. Regardless of what your body is telling you, take it slow. The key is to relax and enjoy the sensations that come with penetrating the anal area for the first time.
Getting the right angle for inserting your anal toy is crucial, and you can experiment to find what works best for you. If you’re not sure how to approach this, many anal sex toys come with a manual that provides detailed instructions.
Some people like to recline when they’re using their anal vibrator, while others prefer to go on all fours ala “doggy style.” The position you choose is up to you and depends on your comfort level.
When you’re ready to begin, use your finger to lubricate the tip and top half of the anal vibrator shaft. Gently ease it up to the sphincter and slowly push it in and out until you feel pressure back there, but not pain. Then activate the motor and turn the vibrations up gradually as you experience pleasure, and then increase the speed and intensity. Some anal sex toys also have a feature that can be used to stimulate the p-spot, and this can add an entirely new element of pleasure.
