Whether you are single or in a relationship, porn can add another dimension to sexual enjoyment. However, it’s important to keep in mind that pornography is fiction.
It shows an unrealistic view of sex. It is important to be aware of the things that pornography doesn’t show: 1. It’s not realistic for partners to orgasm from vaginal penetration alone.
1. You can’t orgasm from vaginal penetration alone
Porn promotes the idea that women get excited instantly and easily – but that’s not how it really works. Sexual arousal takes time and needs to build up between partners.
For most women, vaginal penetration is not enough to induce an orgasm. It is important to stimulate the clitoral hood, also known as the G-spot. It is located a few inches inside the front wall of the vagina and is different from the rest of the tissue.
The clitoral hood is made of erectile tissue and swells up when aroused. Using your finger, penis or a wand toy is an easy way to stimulate the G-spot and get ready for sex.
It is also important to discuss sexual arousal with your partner and find what turns you on. It’s normal to try new things in the bedroom, but make sure you and your partner are on the same page about condom use, STI status, and birth control.
2. You can’t have sex all the time
Pornography focuses on sex only and ignores emotions, communication, and consent. This can hurt your relationship because it may teach you that sex is something selfish and quick to achieve. This is not how most people want to experience sex and can lead to hurt feelings, sexually transmitted diseases, and/or abuse.
It is also false to believe that women always orgasm during penetrative sex. It takes time to get a woman excited and even then, the majority of women don’t squirt during sex. Women squirt only when their G-spot is stimulated which is rarely during sex.
Lastly, it’s wrong to think that people can start to have sex at any point. It’s best to take things slow and meet someone on a friendly basis first before starting sex with them. This helps with foreplay and also allows you to discuss condoms, STI status, and birth control (if it’s needed). It’s important to have these conversations so that everyone is happy and healthy.
3. You can’t climax on your partner’s face
If you’ve ever watched pornography, you may have seen your partner in the act of “face sitting.” While it looks sexy on screen, it isn’t really a practical way to climax during sex. It’s not very comfortable or secure, and it’s hard to maintain for an extended period of time.
Rather than face sitting, try a more intermediate position. For example, if you find that full-on face-sitting makes you uncomfortable, have your partner straddle your thighs and then lower their head between your knees. You can also use a dildo to help them get into this position.
Just remember to make your normal sex sounds and don’t go overboard moaning. This will only sound fake and may offend your partner. And, be sure to use lots of lube! Also, don’t forget to practice this sexy face while masturbating. That’s the best way to get a feel for it.
4. You can’t have foreplay
There’s a scene in the rom-com The Holiday where Cameron Diaz and Jude Law hook up for the first time, and they agree that foreplay is overrated. But that’s a really misinformed view of sexual foreplay. As long as there’s consent, foreplay can take many forms. As a general rule, it involves activities that get both partners turned on and aroused to a point where they are ready for sex.
For example, some common foreplay techniques include kissing, cuddling, and touching. You might also try stroking and rubbing your partner’s body, particularly their erogenous zones (their G-spot). You can even give each other sensual massages to build up the sexy vibes.
If you want to make foreplay more sexual, it’s a good idea to talk about sex and what each of you enjoys in bed beforehand. That way, you can be sure that the sex you have is safe and satisfying.
5. You can’t have missionary sex
The missionary position is a classic for good reason: it provides a lot of pleasure and gives the guy everything he wants. But it can get boring quickly if done over and over again.
One way to spice up missionary sex is to move around. Try it on the stairs or even in the living room if you can. The change in environment can turn on your sex hormones and make things more intense.
You can also vary the position by putting your feet up and holding them during intercourse. It’s more sensual and makes the person on top bounce a bit, which can increase arousal. And don’t forget to use lube. It makes everything feel more sexy and makes it easier to slide your hands up and down his back and chest. For extra sexiness, try using a blindfold. It’s even more intimate and turns up the volume of your sexy voice.
6. You can’t have sex with just one partner
Sexual intimacy between two people can spread herpes, HIV and STIs. It’s important that sex is done with a healthy partner and with protection (like condoms) if you want to stay safe.
Pornography often sends the message that one person gets their way during sex, while healthy sex is mutually satisfying. This is why it’s important to communicate with your sex partner about what you both want and like in bed!
Another thing to keep in mind is that porn actors are not real. Most of them have plastic surgery to change their bodies and the lighting in porn films is very harsh and unnatural looking. It can make you look at your own body in a harsher light than you should and that’s not good for your self-image. It’s also unrealistic to compare your own sex life to pornography. It’s a work of fiction and it’s not how most couples experience sex.
