Whether you’re going into college having already had sex or looking to have it for the first time, it’s important to understand how hookup culture works on campus. It’s a lot more complicated than what pop culture would lead us to believe.
Most students have sex for the first time away from their parents’ prying eyes and in a cramped dorm room with a roommate. Here are some tips on how to make the most of your college sex life:
1. Know your limits
College is a whole new world, and sex can be confusing. Many freshmen have never had sex before, and others may be coming to college with a lot of experience. Either way, it’s important to know your limits. This can help ensure that you’re satisfied and safe. It can also help you avoid making any mistakes that could lead to sexual regret or even physical pain.
It’s important to be aware of your sexual preferences and limits, and to communicate them clearly with your partner. This is especially true if you’re planning on sleeping together. If you’re not sure what you want, it’s a good idea to ask someone else for their opinion.
Many colleges don’t explicitly tell students how to have sex, and they tend to offer very limited information on how to be a healthy sexual adult. As a result, most students learn how to have sex through trial and error. But this doesn’t have to be the case! By following these tips, you can make sex in college better and more satisfying.
2. Don’t be afraid to ask for help
College has a reputation as the place where students go not just to get an advanced education but also to hook up and explore their sexuality. And while there’s definitely a lot of that going on, it doesn’t have to be toxic or dangerous.
Many freshmen find that college is the first time they’ve had a true taste of freedom when it comes to their sexuality. And while that’s exciting, it can be challenging to figure out how to navigate this newfound freedom when you live with a roommate or in small college rooms.
Luckily, there are plenty of places on campus where you can have sex without having your roommate hear or see you. From the library to the dining hall, there are lots of hidden spaces that can make for a much more intimate and thrilling experience than your dorm room. Plus, if you’re looking for something a little more adventurous, you can always try out one of the handicapped toilets on campus! (Just remember to use protection).) But no matter where you go, just remember that communication is key.
3. Don’t be afraid to ask for space
For many new college students, sex is a big part of their experience. They might be coming into the four year sex fest with a lot of knowledge already or they might be exploring it for the first time. Some people choose to abstain from it completely, and that’s OK too!
One thing most freshmen learn quickly is that privacy disappears in a dorm room. It can be tough to get down with a guy or girl when you know your roommate could come walking in at any moment without knocking. That’s why it’s important to discuss things like this before you start making love in the same small space!
You might not want to talk about it with your girl, but you should at least sit down and calmly ask her if she’s comfortable in the current position. If not, she’ll say something and you can both agree on a different position that makes both of you happy. That’s better than fighting, cutting off contact, or making her feel distant — all of which will just push her away.
4. Don’t be afraid to get into a relationship
Whether you’re an independent bad ass or have never been in a relationship before, college is the time to experiment and figure out what kind of relationship you want. And if that happens to be long-term, great. It’s also the best opportunity to learn how to have sex with someone who you care about and who cares about you.
College students have a reputation for hitting the sheets more than they hit the books. But this isn’t a universal rule. Some students, like Cassidy, an extroverted blond from a stuffy suburb, relish casual hookups. In fact, research suggests they thrive on them. But others – Jimena, an ambivalent brunette from a ritzy sorority house – don’t.
This is because they’re often sucked into “hookup culture” by inconsiderate roommates who don’t respect their privacy. This type of sex is rarely as satisfying as it could be, and it often leaves students regretful, frustrated, or insecure. That’s why it’s important for everyone to have a clear understanding of what they’re getting into. By doing so, they can make sure that sex in college lives up to the hype.
5. Don’t be afraid to get laid
Most people enter college with some kind of sexual background, and while that is totally fine, it can also be a little intimidating. Especially in the setting of dorm rooms where roommates and twin XL-sized mattresses are all part of the mix, getting laid can be tricky.
Luckily, there are plenty of ways to overcome the obstacles of dorm sex, and even have fun doing it. One great way to get laid is by getting creative with the space you have, like by using the handrails of the stairs in a dorm hallway or the handle on a handicapped toilet.
Another thing that can help is putting out the word that you are open to hooking up with anyone. This will usually attract a lot of attention from students, and it can also make for some pretty wild experiences. However, if you want to take it to the next level then try to avoid sleeping with someone just to have sex with them. This will only lead to a bunch of drama down the line, and it will not necessarily turn them into a good partner.