Vibrators aren’t just for women — men can enjoy vibrating sex toys too. They can masturbate on their own or with a partner, and even use them during penetrative sex.
It’s a good idea to talk with your partner about this beforehand, and frame it as an opportunity for you both to explore something new that can enhance pleasure. Try a few different erogenous zones and types of vibrators until you find what’s right for him.
Focus on the Frenulum
Many people think of vibrators as toys for vulva-owners, but they can be fun on the penis, too. For men, a vibration toy can be especially orgasmic when pressed against the frenulum, the narrow elastic bit of tissue that runs between the head and shaft of the penis. The frenulum is highly erogenous and sensitive to touch, so it’s a good place to start if you’re using a new device.
If you’re not sure where to press the vibe, try stroking the bottom of your chin with it. It may feel a little silly, but it adds a whole new dimension to oral play and can lead to some pretty intense orgasms. You can also use a vibrator against the clitoris, or even the vaginal opening.
Other areas of the penis that respond well to vibrator play include the testicles and the crotum. These areas can vary a lot between individuals, but it’s worth giving them a shot if you haven’t already.
As with any toy, it’s important to apply lube before using a vibrator on the penis. You can buy special sexy toy lube, or just go with regular body-safe lubricant. It’s also a good idea to read any instructions or tips that come with your toy, and make sure it’s fully charged before you get started.
Try It on the Testicles
Many sex toys are designed specifically to be used on the penis, such as dildos and cock rings that offer both stroking and suction sensations. They can be inserted in different ways depending on what feels best, and a person may need to play around with it a bit until they find the right spot.
For those who enjoy more subtle pleasure, try a vibrator on the head and shaft of the penis. Start on the lowest setting and gently trace it around, focusing on that little area of skin that connects the head to the shaft. This can feel amazing, especially with the right pattern, such as one that includes quick thuds.
It’s important to remember that the testicles can be very sensitive, so don’t go in too hard and hurt him (and yourself). That said, if he’s comfortable with it, he might enjoy a gentle massage of the ball area, which feels great. It can also be pleasurable to apply the toy to the scrotum and balls, which is known as “ball play.”
If he’s ready for more intense pleasure, you can try stimulating him from the outside using a prostate massager. This is a good idea if you haven’t tried anal penetration yet, as it can feel much more powerful and exciting than just stroking or sucking on the penis.
Try It on the Clitoris
While a lot of people assume vibrators are only for women’s, or vaginal, areas, men — or anyone with a penis — can use them as well. They can stimulate the nipples, balls, and especially the sensitive frenulum where the head of the penis connects to the shaft — it’s a great area for men to explore. And if they’re feeling adventurous, they can also use a vibrator to massage their clitoris.
The clitoris is another orgasmic zone that’s often overlooked by males, but it can be extremely pleasurable to stimulate with a vibrator. Many guys who have a penis discover the pleasures of this area by using a vibrating c-ring, which can be found in many drug stores’ condom aisles. Others discover it while masturbating in bed or while using a vibrator with a partner.
If your partner is new to this, it’s a good idea to start with gentle teasing and very little contact. For example, they might hold the vibrator against their nipples or balls, or even just the outside of their thigh. Then, they can slowly work it up to the clitoral area and clitoral hood. Once they’re more experienced, they can start to apply pressure and increase the intensity. Remember to always use a nonporous lubricant when playing with any vibrator, and to clean it after each use.
Try It on the Vaginal Opening
While vibrators are often associated with women (or vaginas), they can be used by men or people with penises too. They’re great for stimulating clitoral areas or G-spots, and can even be used to enhance oral sex. Many guys don’t realize how much pleasure they could be missing by not trying a vibrator or dildo on their penis. I’ve spoken with thousands of guys who once thought vibrators weren’t for them, but then found themselves discovering pleasure and orgasms they didn’t even know they had in their bodies.
The classic bullet vibrator can be discreetly positioned in the clitoris or vulva, and used for a variety of sensations. Put it on a lower power setting and try rocking and rotating it for added excitement, or use it to press against the skin of your partner during oral sex. Remember to use lube if needed, and make sure to clean the toy between uses. Using a dirty one can lead to STIs, including chlamydia and yeast infections.
The trick to getting good use out of a vibrator is to experiment and find what feels good for you and your partner. “It may take a while to figure out where the pressure and friction feels best, or what speed is most satisfying,” says Schuster. “But the more you play with it, the better you’ll get.” For more information on how to use a vibrator properly, check out this helpful article from O.shop, a sex toy shop that offers safe, high-quality toys with trust, discretion and body safety in mind.
