Vibrators can be a fun addition to foreplay and sex with your partner. So, it’s important to know how to use one correctly.
For starters, try teasing your partner with the vibrator by lightly running it around the body, such as the nipples or chest. This will get them in the mood for more intense stimulation later on.
1. Place the Vibrating Toy on Your Partner’s Butt
It’s important to be comfortable using a vibrator with your partner. You can set the mood by playing soft music, lighting candles, or even taking a bath together. If you’re feeling adventurous, try doing some doggy style play. This is a great position for exploring a man’s anal area with a vibrator. Just be sure to use a towel beneath you in case you get too far down!
Using a vibrator during oral sex can be incredibly satisfying. The best part is that it’s completely safe and can help lead to an orgasm. Just make sure that the toy is wiped clean between uses and avoid pushing too hard.
If you want to increase the intensity of your sex game with a vibrator, try stroking it around the neck, nipples, inner thigh, back of the knee, testicles, shaft, and perineum. Remember, everyone’s erogenous zones respond differently to stimulation. If you keep trying different things and stay open to what feels good, you’ll be able to discover the perfect combination of pressure, friction, and speed for your sex.
2. Move the Vibrating Toy to Your Partner’s Testicles
While most people think of vibrators as a tool for clitoral stimulation, it’s important to remember that our erogenous zones are complex and respond differently to stimulation. For instance, you might find that arousal on the neck, nipples, and inner thighs feels amazing, too. Even if orgasm isn’t the end goal, using a vibrator in light circles on these areas can still feel great and help to build up anticipation for the climax.
In the same vein, don’t forget about the testicles, a highly sensitive area that can feel incredible with vibrations. The narrow elastic ridge of tissue that runs between the foreskin and penis shaft—the frenulum—is especially receptive to stimulation, and can elicit intense pleasure.
Another thing to keep in mind is that if you want to use the vibrator on your partner’s testicles, it’s best to play around with the settings and speeds before going all in. As with the clitoris, it’s also best to start out slow and tease them with the toy by moving it delicately around their body. It’s a good idea to ask them “does this feel good?” in between strokes.
3. Place the Vibrating Toy on Your Partner’s Penis
If you’re just starting out with vibrators, you may want to start out small and work your way up. “The head of the penis is a really good beginner place to start,” Schreck tells POPSUGAR, adding that you could also use your mouth on this area first and then switch between the two for added pleasure. “Stimulating the vulva itself with vibrations, rather than just going straight for the clitoris, increases blood flow and can be very pleasurable.”
For some men (and women), this kind of stimulation leads to powerful orgasms. However, you should also experiment with other areas, like the shaft of the penis and around the base of the penis or scrotum. You can even use your vibrator during penetration. For instance, your partner can lie on their back while you get on top of them in a position like reverse cowgirl or spooning, and then they can trail the toy along your body before bringing it down over your clitoris. Just remember that if you’re sharing a vibrator with your partner, you should use condoms or other barrier methods to reduce the risk of STI transmission.
4. Place the Vibrating Toy on Your Partner’s Balls
If you want to take your vibrator play to the next level — or even to the bedroom if your partner is into it — consider trying edging. This involves alternating between coming close, backing away, and building back up again to elicit powerful orgasms. This is a great way to increase sensitivity and also give your partner something to look forward to in the bedroom.
Billy Beyer, founder of luxury toy brand Lickerish Love, recommends starting by massaging and teasing the entire vulva area (the head of the penis, shaft, and scrotum) with your vibrator before moving on to the frenulum, a ridge of tissue that connects the foreskin to the penis’s shaft. This can be super sensitive and is a hot spot that can elicit a lot of pleasure with just the lightest touch.
It’s important to remember that using a vibrator can be highly sexual and you should always ask for a man’s permission before going in hard with it. Also, it’s important to experiment with the toy and discover what feels best on your body.
5. Place the Vibrating Toy on Your Partner’s Frenulum
There’s a very sensitive, erogenous area on the base of your partner’s penis called the frenulum. It’s narrow and elastic, making it very sensitive to vibration. Light pressure, almost like a tickle, can be enough to stimulate it. You can use your finger, your tongue, a feather or even a vibrator. There are some sex toys that are specifically designed for frenulum stimulation, such as the JETT Guybrator or the Arcwave Ion.
Start by gently touching the head of your partner’s penis with your vibrator toy, then move it up and down and around the vulva in general. This helps your partner to become familiar with the feel of the device, and can also activate their desire. You can also tease the clitoris by stroking it with your toy and increasing the pressure. This increases blood flow to the clitoris, which will make later sexual stimulation much more intense. Remember to always use a good amount of water-based lubrication when using a sex toy with your partner. This will prevent friction, which can cause pain and lead to aversion.
