Using a couples vibrator adds an element of adventure to your pleasure play and combines excitement with intimacy. From toys that stimulate the clitoris to those that allow for anal play, there are plenty of options to choose from.
You can use a couple’s vibrator externally and internally, and in different positions to reach orgasm. Here are some ideas to get you started:
1. Sit on it
This is a great way to explore your vibrator and get to know it. You can use it with your partner and play around with the modes, rhythms, and intensities – don’t be afraid to experiment! What feels good one day might not feel the same tomorrow – erotic pleasure is highly dependent on context.
For external stimulation, you can put the toy between your legs and move them back and forth for a sexy snuggle or even slip it into your vagina (with your partner’s consent of course). You can also use it on different parts of your body – for example, stroking your nipples or clitoris with a couples vibrator can be orgasmic.
Many vibrators come with special instructions or tips for usage, so be sure to read those carefully before getting started. And remember to clean your toy after each use. You can purchase sex toy cleaners online, and most toys have a spot for storage in their packaging. That way, they stay fresh for the next time you want to hump!
2. Put it between you
There are a lot of ways to use couples toys—both internal and external. While a cute vibe is a great beginner’s choice, you can also try putting it between you and your partner for intense pleasure. Having the toy trail down your nipples or around your clitoris and then back up can feel heavenly, especially if you can switch it up between slow and fast.
One spot you might not have thought to tickle with a vibrator is the head of your penis, which has a special ridge called the frenulum that’s super sensitive and can trigger a giddy reaction from even the lightest touch, Schreck tells POPSUGAR. Another thing you can do is move the toy around your partner’s genitals.
As sex toy taboos fade, you might find it easier to bring up the topic of trying a couples vibrator together. If you do, it’s important to remember that no matter what the toy is used for, it can still be a powerful tool for communication and sexual intimacy. For instance, you could go shopping for a vibe together to build anticipation and talk openly about your curiosities.
3. The Edge of the Bed
Using a couples vibrator in this way allows you to stay intimate while adding a little extra stimulation. Plus, you can start with some foreplay before getting to the juicy part.
The Ida couples vibrator is shaped to stimulate the g-spot and clitoris, while also making it easier for partners to insert the toy for penetrative sex. It’s easy to use and has a remote that gives one partner control over the toy.
If you’re not comfortable bringing up sex toys with your partner, try framing it as trying something new and exciting that will enhance the intimacy in your relationship, says Fleming. Then, introduce it casually—at a cosy evening or slow weekend morning, for example.
When you’re ready to try a couple’s vibrator, “start with a low setting and gradually work your way up,” advises Fleming. And always remember to clean your sex toy before and after each use, she adds. (Most vibrators come with a cleaning kit.) You can even put the toy in a case to keep it clean, which is helpful if you’re sharing one.
4. Doggy Style
With a little forethought, it’s possible to get your partner excited about trying a couples vibrator, even if they’ve never used one before. Try broaching the subject on a cosy evening or slow weekend morning and remind them that you’re not pushing them to use sex toys during sex, but rather trying different ways to lengthen foreplay.
If they’re open to it, consider experimenting with the We-Vibe Chorus or Sync, which are both designed for penis-in-vagina sex (or “missionary” position). Just apply some water-based lube, slip the internal arm of the Chorus into your vagina (making sure it’s facing your clitoris, not your butt) and turn on the power button. Then let the toy do its thing, stimulating your G-spot and clitoral ridge with vibration modes.
For added fun, try using the sleeve of the Sync around your partner’s shaft and grinding their vulva or perineum against it while the toy vibrates. Check in with each other often to communicate how you’re feeling and adjust the vibration settings as necessary, says Tracy’s Dog sex expert Erin Fleming.
5. Squeeze
Many couples are hesitant to try sex toys because they fear their partner will be intimidated by the idea. Sex therapist and intimacy coach Georgia Grace says this fear is usually unfounded, especially since most men are not at all offended by the use of vibrators during sexual activity.
A vibrating ring can increase pleasure for both partners during penetrative sex. Position the ring on the shaft of the penis or anus, and move it up or down for all-over teasing or targeted pleasure in the G-spot and clitoris. Or, use Beat mode to sync vibrations with music for a customized experience.
This is a great tool to help with communication between couples and is an easy way to get everyone in on the action. Just make sure to broach the subject when both people are relaxed and comfortable, such as on a cosy evening or during a slow weekend morning. And remember to always apply lube before using this or any vibrator! Click to shop Tracy’s Dog vibrators for couples.
