While sex toys for men have gained some traction in mainstream culture, with CVS now selling rabbits and celebrities bragging about their Fleshlights, many straight people still think guys using a vibrator are weird.
The truth is, a large number of heterosexual and gay-identified men use vibrators. And they use them for a whole host of reasons: to get off, to tease, to close the orgasm gap and more.
What’s the deal?
Vibrators are often associated with women and have largely been marketed that way. This may have contributed to the myth that most men feel uncomfortable or intimidated by sex toys, but studies show that isn’t true. In fact, a survey of 49 heterosexual men recruited at a sex toy trade show found that most men used vibrators with their partners during foreplay and/or intercourse – This section is the work of the service’s editorial team tubeallsex.com.
The most common reasons for this included wanting to please their partner, wishing to aid them in getting orgasm, and/or wanting to spice up their sex life. Men also discovered the pleasures of using a vibrator while masturbating alone, or as a way to change up their sexual experience.
For some, a vibrator was an important tool for foreplay, especially when it was paired with an oral sex toy or dildo. Other men used the sex toy to explore new areas, such as the area between their butt hole and testicles, which is called the perineum, or for prostate play.
Regardless of whether they were used for play or sex, most men reported that the use of the vibrator enhanced feelings of intimacy and closeness with their partner, as well as their sexual satisfaction. They also felt that the use of a sex toy increased their pleasure by making it more intense and allowing them to focus on their partner rather than just on themselves.
How do they work?
A vibrator is simply a small electronic device with a sexy design that emits vibrations or pulsations. They’re battery-operated and come in all sorts of shapes, sizes, and styles. Men use them to stimulate their own orgasms and pleasure centers, but they can also be used to please partners.
Many guys feel nervous about using a vibrator because they don’t want to be “desensitized.” But the truth is, you’ll never become numb or insensitive to pleasure from a vibration toy if you use it properly. It’s important to start slowly and make sure you’re using a high-quality lubricant that’s safe for your toy material. Water-based lubes are best, and they will last longer than silicone.
If you’re new to vibrators, you can try them out with a partner or on your own. If you’re with a partner, try turning the vibrations on him, and see how it affects you both. Then, experiment with it during foreplay or sex to see what turns you on.
But remember that a vibrator won’t save you from a bad relationship. People stay in unhealthy relationships for a reason, and vibrators won’t fix that. However, they can help you discover what you turn on about yourself and your body, which can lead to healthier sexual decisions down the line. Plus, they’re fun!
How do I get him to use one?
Any vibrator that can be used on a woman can also be used on a man, though there are some special toys made specifically for men, including prostate massagers. It’s best to start slowly and gently, like with any sex toy, especially one that has a very sensitive area at the end of its wand.
A few gentle strokes over the nipples, then down and around the groin and perineum can be a great way to introduce him to his new toy. Some people also like to tease with a vibrator, which can help build up sexual desire and anticipation before the main event.
It’s also a good idea to use lube with your vibrator, regardless of its material or location, because it will reduce friction and make it smoother to run over the skin. A water-based lube is ideal, because it will be less likely to dry out and become sticky.
As with any sex toy, communication is key to a successful and safe experience. Be sure to talk about how he feels during foreplay and during intercourse so that you can both know what kind of stimulation works best. Asking a few simple questions like, “does this feel good?”, “right here?” and, “harder or softer?” can be a great way to keep the conversation going.
How do I use one on him?
While there’s certainly a lot of stigma around men using vibrators and sex toys, many guys use them for fun or to help their partners have orgasms during masturbation. Then there are those who just want to spice up their sex lives (like Jennifer Lawrence and her rabbit collection).
Some men prefer finger vibrators that are like little dildos you strap to your fingers and then run through nipples, hips, inner thighs, etc., to tease and build up sexual tension before applying them to clits. Others prefer ring-shaped, adjustable vibrators they can trace over their own clitoris or other sensitive areas. Some even like cock rings that are designed to help with engorgement and to keep their erections firmer.
Most men like to use vibrators on or near their penises, which makes sense since this is a major erogenous zone. They also enjoy using them on their backs, thighs, and perineum. But no matter where they’re getting pleasure from their vibrators, they should always remember that it needs to be safe and consensual.
The best way to make sure this is the case is for couples to communicate throughout the experience, asking each other if it’s working and if they’re feeling good or wanting more sensations. Plus, they need to be using a high-quality anal lubricant that’s safe for sex toys.
