Sex is God’s gift, but it cannot accomplish its original purpose in the covenant of marriage. That’s why the Bible promotes abstinence until marriage.
If you’re struggling with sexual sin, it’s helpful to associate with individuals who support your decision to remain abstinent. Additionally, it’s important to listen to podcasts that provide encouragement and guidance for the journey.
1. Talk to Your Significant Other
Amy made a commitment to God and herself that she would reserve sex for marriage. But at age twenty-five, she is beginning to wonder if she can keep it. Chad has always been physically attracted to her, and they often have passionate sex. She has started to think that maybe she is just not as sexually attractive as other girls.
It is important to talk with your significant other about your stance on premarital sex. If they cannot respect your decision, then you may need to re-evaluate your relationship.
Make sure to talk to them face-to-face in a safe and private place. Also, be prepared to be honest and open. This is a difficult topic to discuss, but it is necessary for the health of your relationship. It is also important to associate with individuals who support your decision to be abstinent until marriage. This will help you stay strong and not give in to temptations. It will also remind you that you are valued and your purity is worth waiting for. If you have difficulty finding individuals who understand your stance on abstinence, you can join a support group through your church or search online for groups that are specifically dedicated to sexual purity.
2. Change Your Environment
Many individuals fail to stop having sex before marriage because they do not change their environment. This is a mistake that needs to be avoided at all costs. Individuals who want to stay abstinent should spend more time with friends who are on the same journey and surround themselves with positive influences.
Additionally, it is important to limit the amount of time you spend alone. Being alone allows your thoughts to become wandering. You should also stop watching pornography and listening to music that is degrading. This will help you stay focused on your goal.
It is also helpful to write down your thoughts. Journaling is a great way to express yourself and it can help keep your mind off of sexual temptation. Lastly, a counselor or psychologist may be able to help you with your situation. They can teach you coping skills and provide you with the support you need to succeed. This is especially true for individuals with a history of sexual addictions.
3. Change Your Friends
Amy is in her mid-twenties and has always made a commitment to herself and God that she would reserve sex until marriage. But after seeing many influencers condemn virginity she is starting to doubt if she will ever be able to make it.
It’s vitally important to surround yourself with people who will support you and help you stay strong. If you spend a lot of time alone, it’s possible that your mind will begin to wander and you’ll be tempted by sexual thoughts. To avoid this, try to hang out with friends more often and plan activities.
It’s also important to talk to your significant other about your decision to remain celibate and have a conversation about what you both want out of the relationship. If your significant other doesn’t respect your desire to abstain from sex, it may be time to find someone who will. You deserve a man who will uphold your values and respect your decision to wait until marriage for true fulfillment.
4. Listen to Podcasts
If you’re having trouble following through on your commitment to wait until marriage for sex, listening to podcasts can help. They can offer inspiration, encouragement and expert advice. They can also give you a new perspective on love and relationships.
Having sex before marriage isn’t risk-free. There are risks associated with any sexual activity, including STIs and pregnancy. But this isn’t an excuse to avoid intimacy and pleasure. This podcast discusses why it’s important to save sex for marriage and offers tools to help you do so.
The goal of this podcast is to encourage couples to work together to strengthen their marriages and their intimate relationships. It features interviews with experts and listener questions on a variety of topics. From better in bed tips to current events affecting sexuality, the podcast has something for everyone.
5. Pray
It’s important to have a solid prayer life and to pray for the strength and wisdom to avoid temptation. Pray that God would heal your heart, and that he would help you to flee fornication and instead pursue marriage.
It is also important to have a strong commitment to a church community. Surround yourself with people who will encourage you and hold you accountable to the Lord’s commandment of abstinence from sex before marriage.
If you are having sex before marriage and find that you are struggling to keep your commitment to abstinence, please talk to your significant other about it. It’s not an easy conversation, but it is a necessary one. If your significant other cannot respect your decision to not have sex before marriage, he or she may not be the best match for you. Remember that your worth is found in Christ and that you are precious in His eyes. It is important to realize that sex before marriage can create bonds that are difficult to break later when your spouse is mentally or physically ill, there is marital discord, etc.
